On Nurturing, Becoming, and Beginning Again

birthday musings and birthday sale! 🍰 🍵 🍯 🍒

Hellloooo my beautiful honiessss,

It’s my birthday today! So naturally, I’ve been reflecting on this past year, and I’ve realized so much of what I’ve learned can be distilled into three quiet truths I keep returning to:

~~> There is no end point.

There is no final destination where you suddenly arrive and say, “okay, I’ve done it. I’ve healed enough. I’ve grown enough. I can stop now.”

There is no end to speaking kindly to yourself.
No end to nourishing your body.
No end to tending to your business.
No end to expanding your capacity for abundance.
No end to curating a life that actually feels like yours.

And so while that is true, it’s easy to slip into the subtle yet deceptive:
“I can only have X once I’ve healed Y”

I’ve seen it unconsciously sneak up on the most brilliant and capable women. It’s so human of us to create secret contracts with ourselves that limit what we can have and when.

The shift is this:
You are not fixing yourself.
You are nurturing yourself.

~~> You are not fixing yourself. You are nurturing yourself.

Zack tends to all of our house plants. They’re big, green, full, thriving.
As all of you know, you don’t just water a plant once, get the bloom, and move on. Zack pays attention. He moves them to different places in the room depending on the season. Closer to the window. Further. He adjusts how much sunlight they get. He watches the quality of their leaves and responds accordingly.

He attunes.

This is the relationship you get to have with yourself.
Actually, I invite you to be high maintenance. To own what it takes to make you thrive, and to let it be okay.

A practice I take my business clients through is to calculate how much it takes to maintain their lives. But not just here’s the cost of food and water. What’s the cost for organic food. the cost of water in the glass bottle. for the best therapist. the weekly massage. the french skincare. the housekeepers. don’t give me survival numbers, give me thrival numbers. build a business and identity that supports the life you want, not the one you’ve had.

And for many women…

This level of attention, attunement, and care for themselves is the first time they’ve ever experienced it.

They’ve overextended for others.
They’ve been hyper attuned outward.
They’ve found safety in over functioning.

But the problem with that is…you’ve been eating the cost…without receiving the nutrients.

And as someone who is born with the gift of Nurturing, as both a Taurus sun and with my sun in gate 27 of Nourishment, I know the entire spectrum of this, from extreme over indulgence to complete self abandonment.

Nurturing yourself is a habit.

You learn it. You practice it. You refine it.

And when life happens—when things as you know uncomfortably dissolve—you begin again.

If that’s where you are…

begin again. with love.

You stopped nurturing the business and now you need to revive it?
Approach her with devotion.

It feels like people have forgotten about you?
Remember yourself.

~~> The third thing I’ve anchored into, deeply, one of my favorite prayers/mantras:

No weapon formed against you shall prosper.

No economy.
No transit.
No comment.
No misunderstanding.
No jealousy.
No projection.

None of it is your GOD… unless you decide it is.

Nothing is more powerful than you and your creator working hand in hand.

One of the most brilliant things about being human is that we’re malleable. neuroplasticity means that the brain constantly reorganizes itself by forming new connections in response to learning, experiences, and habit formation, foreverrrrr (why i love hypnosis btw).

So… you can keep reinforcing the identity of someone who is bracing for it to all go wrong..

or you can decide that you are safe.

Safe to be seen.
Safe to receive.
Safe to try again.
Safe to try something new.
Safe to hold what you’ve asked for.

Even if you have to feel delusional at first. Stay with it long enough, and it becomes your identity.

Everything you’ve been given—every season, every challenge, every loss, every detour—has been the exact curriculum required to build your vessel.

Nothing has happened in vain.
Nothing has been random.

The Creator is always revealing more Light—but we can only receive it to the extent that our vessel is ready to receive it.

And… it’s not just in the expansion where that vessel is built.
It’s in the restriction.

In the heartbreak.
In the financial contraction.
In the dissolution of a what you thought was going to last.

Because it’s there! it’s right there when your control reaches its limit,
that you finally, lift your hands in frustration to say:

HELP.
I can’t do this alone.

in Kabbalah, restriction is not punishment.
it is the precise pressure, a portal required to expand your capacity for Light.

So in the contraction…
in the surrender…
in the softening of your grip…

the blessings are revealed most clearly.

In that frustration, and surrendered state, we’re less attached to forcing the outcome. Less convinced it has to look a certain way to be right.
And paradoxically…we become

more available for blessings.
more available for support.
more available for abundance.

Because you’re no longer gripping to how it’s supposed to be—
you’re allowing yourself to be moved by the Creator.

And the best part of it all is you don’t have to wait for life to force restriction or chaos to remember you’re not meant to do this alone.

Miracles don’t appear out of thin air. They’re always available. They’re always in the field, surrounding you.

They simply drop in when something in you shifts. when you’ve created the right inner environment to receive them. like a key fitting the right door.

as within, so without.

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You want to experience something new… you have to begin nurturing something new in your unseen world.

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If you’ve been in a season of reclaiming your co-creative power…remember that your power isn’t lost..

You’ve just left it somewhere else.

In a relationship.
In a poor investment.
In someone else’s perception of you.
In the algorithm.
In the news.
In the pain of your past.

And you can take it back. Gently. Consistently. Devotionally.

It’s my birthday today.

And I wanted to open a small window for you to step into this work with me at a lower entry point. It’s the only time of the year I run a 50% off sale on almost everything. This is the lowest these offers will be until next year.

The work, babe, is not just building something that looks good…
but becoming the version of you who can hold it, sustain it, and enjoy it.

You can check out the sale here—available for only a week. ( have any questions or need a dash more time? please feel free to DM or email)

If you’ve been feeling the pull to work together, this is your invitation.

explore here

I’m celebrating you. And I’m really proud of the version of you that’s still here, still choosing, still becoming.

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psssst, in case you. missed it….